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- I knew it would be bad news.

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This guy's had it in for me since day one.

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I felt like he had his knee on my throat.

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I wanted to run screaming
from that meeting.

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- Do you remember feeling that way before?

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- My heart racing like that?

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Never.

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Well.

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-  My
father was a psychoanalyst,

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a Freudian.

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In the 50s and 60s, Freud was like a god.

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Therapists were the priests.

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People thought psychiatrists
could see into your soul.

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- I found myself with feelings

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that came on me very unexpectedly.

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- Tell me about them.

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-  My father's
office was in the city,

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but nights and weekends

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he saw patients at home in the basement.

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Us kids were supposed to stay upstairs.

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You wouldn't believe
what went on in there.

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- Doctor, I don't really
know how to talk about this.

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It seems very inappropriate.

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- In what way inappropriate?

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- Well, I'm developing feelings

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and I don't think I
should tell this person.

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I think it would
jeopardize our arrangement.

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- She's got issues.

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-  What are issues?

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- Forget it.

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You're too young to understand.

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- No, you're too young.

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- Actually, she's kinda right.

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I'm 12 in this scene, but 30 years later,

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I was still trying to make sense of it.

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- I'm gonna tell Dad about you spying.

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- You will not.

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I'll let you listen next time.

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We were like a lot of
families in the 1960s.

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Except that in our house,
the kids were responsible

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not just for what we said or did,

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but also for our unconscious motivations.

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You can trace those back to
our psychosexual development,

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and fixations that Freud
described at the oral stage,

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the anal stage, and of course the phallic,

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and genital stages.

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-  More.

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(shovel digging and scraping)

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- You know, I'm keeping my eye on her.

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I don't why she can't manage
to keep a hamster alive.

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- She's trying, honey.

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She loves them.

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Sometimes she just forgets to feed them.

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- Forgetting masks unconscious intent.

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She forgets what she wants to forget.

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- Maybe it's 'cause they're
just too dumb to live.

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They eat their own poop, you know.

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- Oh, it's okay, sweetie.

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We'll get another one, alright?

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- We're gonna be late
for your appointment.

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Meet you in the car.

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(kissing)

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(car engine starts)

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-  One day a
week, mom took me to therapy.

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Reason?

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Bed wetting.

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(clock ticking)

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- Do you ever feel
angry at mommy or daddy,

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like really angry?

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Do you and your friends ever
like to be out, set fires,

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burn things, you know, for fun?

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Hmm?

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Um, just curious, how often
would you say you, you know,

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what do kids call it these
days, play with yourself?

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-  In
Freud's famous analysis

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of his patient Dora, he
thought her bed wetting

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was a hysterical symptom brought on

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by her deciding to stop masturbating.

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That wasn't the case here.

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(slow piano music)

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To Freud, everything
is erotically charged.

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From babyhood to death,
the key thing is sex.

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- I don't even know what I'm saying.

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- I'm sorry, our time's up.

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We'll finish this next week.

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-  When the
patient is sexually attracted

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to the therapist, that's
called transference.

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When the analyst is attracted back,

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that's counter-transference.

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(slow piano music)

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- Are you hungry?

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(garage door clamoring)

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- Bring it in through here.

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- Yes, sir.

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- That's excellent, thank you.

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- You want us to put
the old one somewhere?

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(accordion music)

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- Hi, honey.

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I thought you might like a new bed.

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- Why, what's wrong with this one?

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- Well, I just thought you might like

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a fresh start, you know?

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Besides, I think your problem's

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pretty much a thing of
the past, don't you?

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Voila.

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- It's not a bed.

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It's Dad's couch.

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- It can be a bed.

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(crickets chirping)
(slow dramatic music)

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(plastic sheets crunching)

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I put the plastic sheet
back on, just for a while.

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So we haven't solved the problem just yet.

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Trust me, pretty soon it's
gonna be ancient history.

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- Maybe I should just
sleep in the bathtub.

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(Mom laughs)

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- Jesus.

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This is so passive aggressive.

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- Oh, just calm down.
- He's way too old for this.

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- You're not helping.

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- You're part of the pathology,
you're infantilizing him.

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- Nothing of the sort.

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- Don't hug him.

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The mother must tell the son,

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I won't love you if you do this.

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- That would never work.

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- Oh really, why not?

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- Because he wouldn't believe me.

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-  What are you doing with these?

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- Andy and I found 'em in the woods.

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They make good life rafts.

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- (laughs) Do you know
what they really are?

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They're condoms.

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They're contraceptives, so
when you're having intercourse,

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the girl doesn't get pregnant.

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Try using them for what they're meant for,

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then you'll stop wetting your bed.

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(slow piano music)

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(loud banging)

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- Hey.

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What's with the couch?

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- It's a bed.

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- Your bed is a couch?

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- What's goin' on?

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- Not much.

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You wanna walk?

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(birds chirping)

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And beside that, I don't
have any real friends.

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Probably never will.

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I just feel like I'm unredeemable.

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- I don't know that word.

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- It means everything about me is wrong.

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- No it isn't.

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I mean, whatever's wrong with you, I like.

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- Well, I like you, too.

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- You wouldn't if you really knew me.

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-  What do you mean?

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- I don't wanna talk about it.

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I'm not normal.

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- I'm not into normal.

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(quirky midtempo music)

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So, have you ever, you know?

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- You mean?

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Oh yeah.

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- Really?

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- I actually have some condoms on my boat.

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(plastic sheet crunches)

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- Wow.

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I need to find my friend.

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- No.

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- Look, I gotta go.

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(muffled panting and mattress pounding)

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- What am I doing wrong?

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-  It's not you, honey.

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- Nibbles was my best friend.

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- Sadly, that might be true.

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- Mom, what was all that noise last night?

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Were you and dad fighting?

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What's going on?

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- We were just moving
your bed, sweetheart.

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- This is a better spot for it.

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- No it isn't.

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- That's where we sleep, so
this is a better place for you.

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- It's my room.

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- Precisely.

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Look around, phalluses everywhere.

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- Your father means penises, honey.

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- Castration anxiety, my friend.

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Trust me, we're saving
you years of therapy.

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(slow piano music)

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- Freud saw himself as more than just

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an observer or scientist.

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He thought that he alone

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understood the secrets of the universe.

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In the 1890s, Freud had some
female patients in analysis.

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They talked about being
sexually abused as children,

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often by their fathers.

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Freud thought all sorts
of anxieties and problems

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could be traced back to this abuse.

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This was the Seduction Theory.

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Suddenly, he throws that
theory away for a new one.

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He now says the women
were just imagining it.

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He says the memories of
their childhood abuse

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were a fantasy, because
little girls desire

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their fathers sexually,

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and fantasize about being punished for it.

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This is the Oedipus Complex.

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So it's a complete reversal

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from one unproven theory to another.

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It may be your life, but it's
the doctor who gets to say

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what's fact and what's
fiction, and who's perverted.

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It's crazy.

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(slow piano music)

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My folks split up.

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My father got remarried
five minutes later.

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And actually, mom didn't
waste any time, either.

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Who knows how it all affected us kids.

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Though, there were signs.

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-  Any last things

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you'd like to say to each other?

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-  I got
married and divorced in my 20s.

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I'll admit, I was immature.

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-  I know
it's been a tough week,

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but you're not sharing.

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-  I tried
a million kinds of therapy.

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The past just wouldn't go away.

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This scene is years later.

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My father has cancer.

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I'm not gonna get to ask him
things I imagined I would.

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Why he used psychiatry
like a weapon on us.

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How he could be so invasive,
without even being available.

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Why our family couldn't last.

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In the myth of Oedipus, he
kills a stranger on the road,

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not knowing it's his father.

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Freud saw in this the unconscious desire

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of all sons to kill their fathers.

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Sure, I wanted to kill him.

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But that didn't mean I wanted him to die.

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(water splashing)

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- Ah, that is so wonderful.

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You're so good at that.

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Where'd you learn to do it?

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- I don't know.

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You did it for me when I was little.

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- You're a beautiful liar.

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-  Of course,
we both knew the truth.

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The washcloth was my mother's thing.

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But it wasn't a lie
exactly, just fictional.

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Some people dream of
reliving their childhood.

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Ugh, not me.

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But if I could go back to the
past, knowing what I know now,

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that's different.

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My father would say,

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that's exactly what you can do in therapy.

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But I don't mean just
talking about the past.

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I mean, a complete do-over.

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(slow pensive piano music)

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- Where have you been?

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- I had some stuff to work out.

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How long have you been here?

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- 20 years.

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- I can't believe this is happening.

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- You know, this isn't
gonna be like you imagined.

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- It's gonna be good, right?

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00:17:48,268 --> 00:17:51,518
- But we don't stay together very long.

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00:17:52,584 --> 00:17:56,167
You'll spend years
trying to figure it out.

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(whooshing)

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00:18:07,730 --> 00:18:10,480
(birds chirping)

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(slow music chords)

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(leaves crunching and dirt skidding)

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-  Our time was up.

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00:19:20,442 --> 00:19:24,609
It's not like those things
are meant to last forever.

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But they do.

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00:19:35,719 --> 00:19:38,552
-  We have to stop now.

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(upbeat music)